Grownup conversation in the presence of kids, or just text me

I am fortunate enough to work from home a couple of days a week, and on those days I pick up my son at the bus stop in the afternoon. This is a special treat for me, because not only do I get to enjoy some fresh air and quality time with my boy, it also allows me to see my friends, and chit chat while we wait. I love this time because it affords me few minutes away from my basement office to talk to other adults face-to-face.

Now generally, the conversation sans children goes a little like this (me and my friend Tracy, for example): Me: “Hey Tracy! I forgot to tell you! I tried a great new recipe for butter chicken!” Tracy: “Oh! I looooove butter chicken! Can you send it to me?” Me: “Of course! So you guys like Indian food?” Tracy: “We love Indian food” Me: “We know this great little place, we should go one evening, just the adults” Tracy: “That would be fun!” Me: “Do you think so-and-so also likes Indian?” Tracy: “So-and-so does, but the other one doesn’t…” And so on and so forth and it’s a nice, happy, pleasant conversation and plans would likely get made to go to the Indian restaurant. Short and sweet and efficient. Beautiful.

And then the kids get off the bus, and the conversation goes a little differently (initials represent the children). Ahem. Me: “Hey Tracy! I forgot to tell you!” D: “Mommy” Me: “Just a minute sweetheart, I’m talking. Anyway, I tried a great new recipe…” D: “Mommy!” Me, with index finger up in the wait a minute sign: “…for butter chicken…” D: “MOMMY NOW!” Me, with an apologetic look at Tracy: “D, I’m talking and when someone is talking you have to wait your turn” (because this is a teaching opportunity). D: “But Mommy, teacher said we couldn’t bring Ninja Turtles to school”. Me: “Well, you’re not supposed to bring toys, did you bring a toy?” D: “No” Me: “Then why did teacher say you couldn’t bring Ninja Turtles?” (blank stare). Tracy: “I looooove butter chicken!” D: “What’s butter chicken?” Tracy: “B! Stop pushing your brother! Can you send it to me?” B: “But he pushed me first!” Tracy: “Yes, but you’re older and should know better. And N don’t push your sister.” N: “But mom! She hit me on the bus!” Tracy: “Did you hit him on the bus?” (Eye roll in my direction) “These kids are driving me crazy.” Me (40’ away because D walks really slowly): “So you guys like Indian food? D, stop picking your nose, that’s gross” Tracy: “Oh yes, we love Indian food” B: “Mom! N pushed me again!” N: “Did not!” B: “Did too!” D: “But mommy, I thought it was show & tell today that’s why I brought the Ninja Turtle to school. I wanted to show the class my favourite one. Mommy, can I watch TV when we get home?” Me: “Yes. We know this great little place, we…” D: “Mommy?” Me: “Just a minute sweetheart. We should go one evening…” D: “Mommy!” Me: “Lord help me… just a minute sweetheart, I’m trying to talk to Tracy and I’ll be all yours in just a bit.” D: “But Mommy, when IS my show & tell?” Tracy: “N, DO NOT face plant your sister in the snow!” Me: “I said I’m talking to Tracy!” D: “But Tracy is talking to B and N!”… Crickets… I look at Tracy and she looks at me and we know. No words are needed because we know. If we really want to go for butter chicken, we’ll plan it via text message.

Thanks a Latte

This is a birthday card I made for Tracy at her last birthday. It’s called Thanks a Latte by Tiddly Inks and is in no way a representation of our friendship or how we have conversations, because it is missing children.

I really DO love my children though…

EBee xox

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Merci

Today begins D’s last week of daycare and next week he embarks on a new journey to school. Big news and I couldn’t be happier and I couldn’t be sadder…

My beginnings with D were rocky. A difficult delivery, sleep deprivation, trouble breast-feeding, and post-partum depression made the first few weeks after baby hellish (to say the least) and the first few months exhausting. The realization that life would never be the same hit me like a ton of bricks and I remember wanting my old life back. I loved my baby with all my heart and I would have protected him to the death, but still, life felt really, really hard and for a while I just couldn’t see the light.

With time and a lot of support from family and friends, the ratio of bitter to sweet began to change, with the “sweet” taking over more and more space. Before I knew it D was sleeping through the night, we were bonding, the sun was shining and I was on top of the world with my boy.

Where I live we get a year of maternity leave, for which I am so grateful. D and I spent our days walking, playing, shopping and seeing family and friends – life was good. Unfortunately that year went by so fast, and before I knew it I was going back to work and my baby was going to start daycare. This killed me – after all, he was just a baby and I had to leave him all day, every day in the care of relative strangers. To say I was an emotional, guilt-ridden wreck is an understatement. I was so torn up that I even wrote him a gushy sentimental letter that I may or may not give him when he’s older. But, with time, we survived the separation and we thrived. D began to acquire some independence and I enjoyed the mental stimulation and social interaction that working affords.

It was hard, but I was able to let my baby go because I felt so comfortable with where he would be spending his days. It was such a relief to know that he would be really well taken care of from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m., even if it wasn’t by mommy.

So, merci to his teachers throughout his 4 years at Les petits mousses, Lucie, Mihaela, Marie-Ève, Julie. Merci to all of you for making my baby’s home away from home so warm and welcoming and special. Thank you for teaching him compassion and how to express himself and assert himself. Thank you for taking my shy little boy and helping him gain confidence and self-esteem. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. These lessons are important and I know he’ll carry them with him forever.

This is the card I made for D’s teacher Lucie. I worked really hard on this card and spent a lot of time and care to make it perfect. The image is from Tiddly Inks, and it’s called Hi There. Hope you like it.

Hi There

EBee xox 

Purrrfect

My good friend, Nadia recently got a new cat named Bentley. He’s adorable, with gray and black stripes and the sweetest little face. When we sit out on Nadia’s front steps watching the kids play (she has a 9-year-old daughter who has tons of cars and trucks and my boys just adore playing with her), Bentley climbs up the screen in the front window and cries for her to bring him outside. It’s really very cute, and usually Nadia (who would like us all to think she’s tough, but is actually just a softie), brings him outside to play.

Well, Nadia had a birthday recently and I made her this pretty card that honours both her birthday and her love of Bentley. The image is called Hannah and it’s from Saturated Canary. Not sure I did Bentley justice, but I still think it’s purrrfect for her 😉

 Purrrfect

EBee xox 

April Showers and May Flowers

Long-time no speak, no? I know it has been a while, but I’ve gotta tell you, April was a rainy whirlwind and here we are, already May! Last month my family was so busy with lots of fun stuff (birthdays, Easter, parties), and some not so fun stuff (ill family members, computer crashes, crazy work schedules), but we made it out of April alive! So far May has also started out rainy and crazy, but I’m optimistic that the sunshine is on its way!

One of the fun things we got to enjoy was a birthday party for my friend’s daughter – a sweet, energetic 7-year-old with beautiful, fiery red hair and a spirit to match. I made this card for her and I call it “Happy Birthday B!” The image is called Spring Bringer (hint hint, Mother Nature), and it’s by Wee Stamps.

I was really missing the vibrancy of spring when I coloured her up so I made her as bright and colourful as possible! I also experimented with a red hair combination because I wanted her to have B’s hair colour. This project was so much fun and seeing it in its new home on my friend’s mantel makes me so happy. Usually the images I colour end up in my copic journal and it’s only recently that I’ve started to put them on cards. It really is rewarding to see how much people appreciate the work, which makes my hobby all the more fun.

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Happy spring, I hope yours is filled with sunshine and lots of colour!

EBee xox

Friendship Matters

I am so lucky. Lucky to be surrounded by some awesome women (and men) who I can call friends. People fun enough to laugh with and close enough to cry with. People who call me, text me, show up at my door… when things are tough. People I don’t see nearly often enough, but when I do, it feels like no time has passed. People I’ve known for 20 years, people I’ve known for 6 months, and everything in between. All these friends who make my life richer, warmer and lighter.

They come in the form of neighbours, childhood friends, university sisters, daycare mommies (and daddies), colleagues and former colleagues. They are all beautiful and they are all so important to my happiness.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart – this one’s for you.

EBee xox

Wryn and Emmy – BFF, by Tiddly Inks

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Skin: E000, E00, E11, R20

Hair: E50, E53, E43, E57 / E23, E25, E27, E29

Clothes : RV63, RV66, RV69, W5, W7, W9 / BG01, BG05, BG07, BG09, YG21, YG23, YG25